Reflection About Loneliness

These came to me almost all at once and I found myself intrigued by the subject. In the end, what is loneliness, what does it entail and what benefits does it bring to us?
As someone who appreciates being lonely a little more than other people do, I thought there was some merit in discussing, or at least reflecting about it.

“Loneliness is the human condition. Cultivate it. The way it tunnels into you allows your soul room to grow. Never expect to outgrow loneliness. Never hope to find people who will understand you, someone to fill that space. An intelligent, sensitive person is the exception, the very great exception. If you expect to find people who will understand you, you will grow murderous with disappointment. The best you’ll ever do is to understand yourself, know what it is that you want, and not let the cattle stand in your way.”
— Janet Fitch.

“Forget relationships and learn how to relate. In a better world, with more meditative people, with a little more enlightenment spread over the earth, people will love, love immensely, but their love will remain a relating not a relationship. If you enjoy being with somebody, you would like to enjoy it more and more. If you enjoy the intimacy, you would like to explore the intimacy more and more. But it has to be a commitment from one heart to another heart. It has not even to be verbalized, because to verbalize it is to profane it. It has to be a silent commitment; eye to eye, heart to heart, being to being. It has to be understood, not said.”

“We are all alone, born alone, die alone, and — in spite of True Romance magazines — we shall all someday look back on our lives and see that, in spite of our company, we were alone the whole way. I do not say lonely — at least, not all the time — but essentially, and finally, alone. This is what makes your self-respect so important, and I don’t see how you can respect yourself if you must look in the hearts and minds of others for your happiness.”

 If you can't stand your own presence for too long, something is definitly wrong.


Tati disse…
A gente nasce sozinho e morre sozinho. A vida é assim...
Some Girl disse…
I love the Janet Fitch quote. Have you read White Oleander? It's one of my favorite books.

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